Everything that happens to us, every challenge or unfortunate situation is always designed to make us learn and grow. Even the nasty episodes of our lives that seem unfair and for which we had no control or even no involvement. Things just happen! With a mindset of seeing all these experiences for what they are, an opportunity to grow and/or learn, it is easier to get over it and move on.
Even when you think you totally messed up, you just learned something. And without it, you would not have been able to become the person you are today. Even minutes ago, before the event, you were a totally different person. Whatever you do or whatever you are NOT doing because you are afraid of the unknown, fear no more. There can only be two results. Either you will succeed, or either you will learn.
What is usually hard to forget or forgive is not really the event in itself. It is the negative emotion that came along with the event. We reacted in a way that caused us to generate a negative emotion and most times, we live and re-live through the bad feeling over and over every time we think about the event. We can get rid of the negative emotion, the minute we acknowledge what was the positive learning for that experience. What did you learn? Who did you become in a result of this happening?
Pretend your experience is an avocado. The pit represents the negative emotion and the beautiful green flesh is the positive learning. You cannot remove the pit without slicing through the flesh first. In order to remove the negative emotion, you have to identify and accept the positive learning from the event. Once you ate the avocado flesh, there is nothing for the pit to hold onto and it can be easily discarded.
If you have some negative emotions bothering you (anger, fear, sadness, guilt, hurt – which are the main 5 negatives emotions I help my clients release), contact me ! With specific NLP processes, I can l help you identify what you needed to learn in order for you to move on past this unfortunate experience and grow stronger to live the life you want!