If you’re a busy executive, you probably don’t have the kind of job that ends neatly at five o’clock. It’s not the kind of work where you can simply turn off your brain, go home, and be fully present without a single worry. If you ever feel like, “When I’m with my family, I should be working,” or “When I’m working, I should be with my family,” this article might be for you.

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How do we stop feeling guilty about working?

If you’re an entrepreneur or someone who thrives on achievement, your personality is fueled by accomplishment. That’s who you are. And if achievement energizes you, then staying home full-time with your family may not make you happy. Your kids and your partner don’t want a mom or dad who’s miserable. If your work brings you joy, that joy radiates into your family life.

People often say, “I should be spending more time with my kids.” But says who? If you think it’s all about the quantity of time, you might be missing the point. It’s about quality. When you are with them, be fully present. Show up as your best self.

You’re not the kind of person who sits back and watches life happen — you’re in the show. You’re not in the bleachers watching the game; you’re the goalie, in the middle of the action. Of course it takes more time and effort. But isn’t that a far more thrilling life than a routine nine-to-five — if that’s what truly matters to you?

Go back to your values. Many people forget that their drive for achievement actually serves their family. You become a better parent and partner when you do what you love. Happy people are easier to be around. How many parents are unhappy because they’ve set aside their passions, and as a result, they feel frustrated and unfulfilled?

Some families would rather have someone who is vibrant, fulfilled, and truly present — even if it’s for less time — than someone who’s there all day but miserable because they’re not living their purpose.

So the next time you feel guilty for being at work instead of at home, remember: your life isn’t divided into “work” and “life.” Work is part of your life. For some people, it’s a big part — and that’s okay. What matters most is the quality of every part of it.

I’m writing this from Québec City, where I’m speaking at several events. Three years ago, I decided I wanted to spend more time with my family in Québec. So, I translated all my materials and began marketing myself on the East Coast — Ottawa, Montréal, Québec City — so I could come here more often. It’s not about quantity. Honestly, living with my parents year-round would drive us all crazy! But when I’m here, I’m here. I’m happy, because I’m doing what I love.

Find a way to listen to yourself — your values, your passions, what truly matters to you. When you live your purpose, you naturally become a better person for those you love.

Focus on quality, not quantity.

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