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It is not because everybody is doing it that it is okay, and not because everybody says it that it is true.<\/p>\n
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Everyone hits \u201creply all\u201d because\u2026 everyone is doing it. Now 147 people are getting \u201cThanks!\u201d emails all afternoon and productivity quietly disappears while everyone pretends this is normal.<\/p>\n
The meeting is scheduled for 60 minutes because that\u2019s what we always do. The real conversation ends at minute 18, but nobody leaves because\u2026 everyone stays. So people nod, check emails, and perfect their \u201cI\u2019m still listening\u201d face.<\/p>\n
Someone uses a complicated acronym in a meeting. Nobody understands it, but nobody asks. By the end, five people are using it confidently\u2026 and it still means nothing.<\/p>\n
A new hire quietly thinks, \u201cThere must be a better way.\u201d Three months later, they\u2019ve stopped asking\u2026 and started saying, \u201cThat\u2019s just how we do things here.\u201d<\/p>\n
Our brain is wired for efficiency, not accuracy. And one of its favorite shortcuts is to follow the crowd.<\/p>\n
From a neuroscience perspective, this comes from what is called social proof and our brain\u2019s need for safety. Deep in our brain, the amygdala is constantly scanning for threats. Standing out or going against the group can feel unsafe, even when there is no real danger. So the brain nudges us to conform.<\/p>\n
At the same time, our default mode network reinforces familiar patterns. If we repeatedly hear something, our brain starts to treat it as true simply because it is familiar. This is known as the illusory truth effect. Repetition builds neural pathways, and the stronger the pathway, the more automatic the belief becomes.<\/p>\n
Add dopamine to the mix. When we agree with others or feel accepted, our brain rewards us. We get a small chemical \u201cyes\u201d that reinforces the behavior. So we keep agreeing, keep following, keep fitting in.<\/p>\n
But here is the challenge. The brain does not stop to ask, \u201cIs this true?\u201d It asks, \u201cIs this safe?\u201d and \u201cHave I seen this before?\u201d<\/p>\n
That is why critical thinking requires conscious effort. It requires activating the prefrontal cortex, the part of the brain responsible for reasoning, decision making, and questioning.<\/p>\n
So the next time you catch yourself thinking, \u201cEveryone is doing it\u201d or \u201cEveryone says so,\u201d pause.<\/p>\n
Ask yourself:
\nIs this true or just repeated?
\nIs this right or just common?
\nIs this aligned with my values or just comfortable?<\/p>\n
Because leadership is not about following the loudest voice in the room. It is about choosing the right one, even when it is quieter.<\/p>\n
And sometimes, that voice is your own.<\/p>\n
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Check out some of my previous blog posts…<\/strong><\/p>\n Why Do We Feel Stuck? Learning from Groundhog Day<\/a><\/p>\n Why the People You Love Most Can Drive You Crazy<\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n<\/a><\/p>\n
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